Entering into and experiencing relationships brings about a great choice, decision to be made over and over again... "Am I willing to sacrifice my ego for this relationship?". Not "for this person", but, "for this relationship" -- for the sake of Love. (This does not mean for the sake of abuse) When we approach this choice as a question of "Am I willing to sacrifice my ego for this person?", we create division, separation, rather than unity and connection because we place one against the other, one against ourselves, and come from the place of comparison. Whereas "Am I willing to sacrifice my ego for this relationship?" helps to keep us aware that love is experienced through relationships, that relationship is a joining together, a union.
For the deepening development of this union we must be willing to set aside our ego. As difficult as this "sacrifice" may seem at a given moment, ultimately, each time will bring about growth as we break through individual barriers to the "Higher-self" within, which really is no self. Each breakthrough can increase our awareness of our capacity. The more the person is willing to be not 1 but 2 or more; to be not 1 but part of the whole, the stronger the relationship. As the relationship deepens, each one of us has more opportunity to increase our growth toward realizing our fullest capacity in the experience of Love. I emphasize growth here because really it is full circle return, "regression", to our beginning -- to a time of uninhibited Love. A time of no question as to who is right or wrong, just an expression, physical manifestation of Love, and a return to spontaneously responding from our deepest source of openness with no fear of wearing our heart for all to see.
Here we can experience the beautiful in vulnerable, however counter-cultural. Here we can learn to set aside our ego for relationship with our own innerbeing and lay down the judge to awaken intuition that can teach us to trust again. Here we can set aside our ego for relationship with our God again, and here we can become more comfortable in inter-being with other. When we lay down the judge we can learn to take ourselves less seriously and find humor in our human.
I give you my eyes
In my eyes, I give you my heart,
the well of my faith object
fed by
Infinite Wisdom
birthed in
my soul.
In so doing, I need remember I cannot expect the same from others, for I have no control over another's behavior nor process. Therefore, I need remember, if in living open, I am wounded, I am only accountable for remaining true to the nature of being that keeps my soul in alignment and spirit alive in me to overcome blame with forgiveness. Sometimes this may bring about the need for moments of "self-preservation" to honor healing. However, too much time spent in "self-preservation" can lead to "self-absorption" where, although the body is alive, life is dead. We need each other. We need God's Love through each other -- however that connection can be made.
